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What being a mother has taught me...
>> Monday 15 August 2011
I've been a mother for a year. Aynur Khalesya is 1 year and few weeks old. She's my biggest achievement. Maklumlah, aku ni manalah belajar tinggi-tinggi. Orang lain ada masters, gaji riban-riban. Aku ada degree je. But this girl, she's grown up to be a beautiful, funny, whimsical toddler. What a sunshine. Sume orang rasa anak dia best. Tak salah. Sume org rasa camtu....aku paham sungguh.
Lepas setahun menjadi mak, aku sedar...how having a baby change your life. What having a baby has taught you. I repeat, the baby will CHANGE your life. You realize you can change into a different person. You realize all this while you worry about the most un-important thing. That zit on your chin?...nehhh! You realize there's more important thing than what you thought is the most important thing before.
Few things that being a mother and wife has taught me?
- Patience- Number 1 thing you should have. If i want to talk about this, its gonna be endless. From my baby is 1 day old....to 1 year old, bkn senang nak besarkan anak. Still remember how my baby doesnt sleep and cry a lot masa pantang. Thats colic. I thought i can never go through it. But i did....dgn jayanya. Hoyeahhh!!
-Strength - Physical and mental. You do need physical strength. Baby will gain weight so fast and you will need to carry her around. Stroller? Well sometimes you gotta carry her manually, plus her stuff. Now my baby is almost 9 kg, 75cm. Tell me if you dont need physical strength? You will need stronger arms and torso.
Mentally is more important. We control things with our mind. Thats why mental strength is important. I, myself have built this 'WALL' inside me. This wall is made of love, courage, patience and so many other wonderful things. So many things and people actually contribute to my wall. My baby, my husband, my mom, dad, siblings, friends, cats, flower, bradley cooper....haha. Whenever i feel like im falling, i will hang on to this wall. (please be informed, its not facebook wall)
-Health - Exercise, eat well. Dont do crazy dieting. Or over-eat. Or eat crap. If you are sick, tempang lah family. Jadi jagalah kesihatan....demi siri sendiri, demi keluarga.
-Time management - Manage time and establish routines. Then you might have more time which you can establish below;
-Me time - Important for you to rest, read a book, do things for yourself. Me time can be harvested when you manage your time. You have vacuum the floor, mop the floor, lipat baju, basuh baju, plan things ready to cook...then maybe you can curi few hours for your face mask and reflexology. Cukur ape patut, mencantikkan diri sket....haha. Its not everyday you can have me time. Be patient! This needs cooperation from your other half. Dapat once a week pun dah cukup bagus.
-Good food - Good food makes people happy and healthy.
-Understanding and helping each other - this doesnt need much explanation.
From my experience, all that above is important. If i explain detail all point one by one, i will only finish writing by tonight...kan. Other than being a mother, you still have your life, your house, your husband. You are still the chef, the cleaner, the wife. You still have double, triple job that seems endless. Kalau dibayar gaji, haha....mmg kaya. Aku ni plak jenis tak mintak tolong org. Im like that. Sejak kecik aku camtu. Mungkin sebab aku tak ramai adik beradik dan org laki dlm family. Aku ada sorang abg yang beza umur 7 tahun. Dia kawin umur 26 kot. Dah ada family sendiri. Pastu tinggal aku, adik pempuan, mak and bapak. Takkan aku nak nyusahkan abg aku yg ada family sendiri. Takkan nak nyusahkan parents aku je kan. Sekali-sekala ada la mintak tlg adik and parents. So aku mmg terlatih utk buat bende sendiri. Kalau org lain tolong, pastu tak bwat stail aku, aku jadi kureng suke plak dah. Nanti aku akan bwat balik sume.Satu lagi aku selalu terfikir, ialah pasal parents aku. Aku terfikir, betapa kite sayang kat anak kite kan. Mesti mak-bapak aku pun sayang aku cam aku sayang kat anak aku. Kalau teringat sume tu....rasa macam...ahh, bersalah. What a lousy daughter i am. At 29 years old, im still learning and realizing things that i never see before. Kekadang insaf jugak....baru la rasa appreciate parents dgn lebih banyak. Pulak tu, parents aku sume bwat sendiri. Masa pantang parents aku jaga aku sendiri. Mak aku mandikan sendiri, sume sendiri. Aku pulak baby colic gak. Budak berangin. Nangis manjang. Masa tu nenek aku dok jauh kat kelantan. Ada tanaman nak kena jaga sume. Taleh jauh lama-lama sangat. Masa tu plak cuti bersalin 40 hari je. Ah...cam robot mama aku. Tabik spring la Ma!
Anyway, semua mak dan isteri ada macam-macam cerita. This all build us to become strong. Aku rasa puas dan lega. Buat lah dengan ikhlas. Buatlah kerana nak keluarga berfungsi dgn baik.....kerana Allah. Pahala orang pempuan ni, mmg byk datangnya dari menjadi seorang emak, seorang isteri, dan seorang anak. Read more...
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